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Enjoying Your Spouse
Pastor Rod Block - March 16, 2018

Make a commitment to shatter routine in your marriage. We’re so busy. We get in a rut and routine. A lot of people think marriage is boring. Dating is fun but marriage is boring.

The next time you see couples laughing and playing, look at their fingers and see if you see any wedding bands on there. Usually the people who are enjoying themselves and having fun are not the ones that are married. Why is that?

Ecclesiastes 9:9 "Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun; for this is your reward in life and in your toil in which you have labored under the sun.”

Somehow we’ve misplaced the Adam and Eve “Wow!” with “oh…” and that becomes routine.

One of the major reasons reported for failures in marriage is boredom. Are you fun to live with? Or is your idea of fun watching TV? When was the last time you did something just for fun to break the monotony, something crazy for your spouse? If your life becomes predictable, your marriage becomes predictable – predictability kills.

Acronym for ENJOY.

E – Encourage. Every day. People are dying for encouragement. Before you get out of bed, before you say anything in the morning pray, “God, will You give me words to say? Give me Your eyes that I might see my spouse the way You see him/her. Give me Your words.”

N – New. Do something new today. Start small. Get out of bed a different way! Do something new. This gets your mind working to think different, to break the routine. Then you begin to say, “What can I do new for my spouse today?”

J – Just touch. Holding hands, arm around while you’re driving. Different things like that.

O – Offer to do. “Let me get that.…” Offer to do something. “Let me fold the clothes…” And when you offer, don’t suggest what they should do with the time you’re just given them.

Y – Say Yes. When he or she is trying something new, say Yes. Don’t go, “You’re just doing that because Pastor told you to.” Just say Yes.

If you are in a rut in your marriage try shattering the routine. Is your marriage declining, maintaining, or growing?


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